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ŠĢGood€family€relationships€between€sinful€parents€and€sinful€children€do€not€develop€naturally,€theyŠ j'ŗ"# Šrequire€much€effort.€I€suppose€the€first€question€that€arises€immediately€as€we€look€at€verse€4€is€whyŠ V(¦#$ Šdid€Paul€address€the€fathers?€Why€did€not€he€address€mothers?€Do€not€the€mothers€spend€more€timeŠ B)’$% Šwith€their€children€than€fathers€do?€When€Paul€speaks€to€fathers€he€is€speaking€to€the€mothers.€AsŠ .*~%& Šthe€head€of€the€home,€the€father€is€responsible€for€what€mothers€do€in€the€home.€The€father€isŠ +j&' Šaddressed€as€the€manager.€In€addressing€the€fathers,€he€is€addressing€the€one€in€whom€God€hasŠ ,V'( Švested€his€authority€for€discipline.Š ° ŠĢWhen€dad€manages€his€household€he€does€not€always€need€to€administer€discipline€directly.€He€mustŠ ˆŲ Šdiscipline€the€children€largely€through€his€wife.€Yet€in€all,€the€father€must€remain€in€control€and€beŠ tÄ Šaware€of€what€happens.€God€holds€him€responsible.€So€in€this€verse€Paul€speaks€to€the€fathers€ofŠ `° Štheir€responsibility€to€see€to€it€that€their€children€are€properly€trained.Š L œ ŠĢEphesians€6:4€"Provoke€not€your€children€to€wrath."€Fathers€must€guard€against€allowing€themselves,Š $ t Štheir€wives,€or€anyone€else€in€the€family€to€provoke€their€children€to€anger.€The€word€for€"wrath"Š  ` Š(anger)€here€means€do€not€exasperate€your€children€that€they€may€lose€heart.€In€essence,€do€not€takeŠ ü L  Šthe€heart€out€of€your€child.€What€is€it€that€provokes€the€child€to€anger?€The€wrong€kind€of€discipline.Š č 8  ŠWhen€there€is€the€wrong€kind€of€discipline€the€child€gives€up€and€quits.€This€often€happens€whenŠ Ō$  Ša€child€has€been€disciplined€in€a€non-Biblical€manner.€The€most€interesting€fact€that€emerges€inŠ Ą  Štalking€with€such€young€people€is€that€it€is€not€discipline€itself,€nor€primarily€over€discipline,€butŠ ¬ü  Šrather,€it€is€under€discipline€that€exasperates€children€more€than€anything€else.Š ˜č  ŠĢAn€example€of€this€would€be€unannounced€rules€that€are€made€known€only€after€the€child€has€brokenŠ pĄ Šthem,€provoke€exasperation.€Parents€this€is€not€proper€discipline.€Another€example€is€inconsistentŠ \¬ Šdiscipline.€The€child€is€told€that€if€he€does€a€certain€thing€he€will€get€a€spanking.€The€next€day€heŠ H˜ Šdoes€the€certain€thing€but€is€not€disciplined€for€it.€When€rules€change€day€by€day,€a€child€does€notŠ 4„ Šknow€where€he€stands.€The€child€then€becomes€exasperated€(angry€at€the€situation).Š  p ŠĢLet€me€ask€a€question€here.€Would€you€like€to€play€baseball€if€the€rules€changed€ever€day€and€wereŠ ųH Šnot€announced?€Why€do€parents€keep€moving€the€boundaries?€The€answer€lies€partly€because€theyŠ ä4 Šare€lazy€and€they€do€not€work€at€discipline.€Godly€parenting€in€the€area€of€discipline€takes€hard€workŠ Š  Šand€effort.€Godly€discipline€also€requires€change€in€parents.€Many€parents€give€up€too€quickly.€If€theyŠ ¼  Šsay€something€today,€and€they€do€not€see€change€instantly,€they€quit.€In€essence,€they€stick€with€itŠ Øų Štwo€or€three€days€and€do€not€see€change€they€quit.€It€is€like€when€they€go€on€a€diet.Š ”ä ŠĢParents,€we€might€as€well€get€one€fact€straight€now,€it€takes€time€to€discipline€a€child,€and€it€takesŠ l¼ Šstated,€consistent€enforced€rules.Š X Ø ŠĢIf€a€child€is€told€not€to€run€in€church,€and€the€parent€sees€the€child€run€in€church€and€does€nothingŠ 0"€  Šabout€it,€that€is€inconsistent€discipline.€Folks,€the€child€needs€to€know€the€rules€and€that€if€they€breakŠ #l! Šthe€rules€they€will€be€disciplined.Š $X" ŠĢSometimes€a€child€gets€exasperated€because€of€over€discipline.€The€parent€never€gives€them€roomŠ ą%0!$ Što€breathe,€the€parent€has€100€rules€and€you€consistently€have€to€look€for€infractions.€Do€not€thinkŠ Ģ&"% Šyou€are€a€good€parent€because€you€have€2500€rules.€Every€rule€that€is€made€must€be€policed,€or€it€isŠ ø'#& Šnot€worth€making.€When€a€parent€fails€to€police€rules,€he€teaches€that€he€does€not€mean€discipline.Š ¤(ō#' ŠĢAnother€reason€for€under€discipline€is€divided€authority.€We€have€husbands€and€wives€who€disagreeŠ |*Ģ%) Šover€various€rules€or€penalties.€They€may€do€so€because€they€have€never€taken€the€time€to€reachŠ h+ø&* Šagreement€during€the€cool€before€the€battle€begins.€Together,€parents€must€think€through€ahead€ofŠ ° Štime€what€they€will€do.€Children€can€see€when€parents€are€divided€and€use€their€division€to€drive€aŠ œģ Šfew€wedges€of€their€own.Š ˆŲ ŠĢHave€you€ever€seen€a€mother€who€is€a€yeller?€The€child€learns€that€they€do€not€have€to€obey€untilŠ `° Šmom€yells.€So€what€happens€is,€mom€ends€up€yelling€all€the€time.Š L œ ŠĢOver€discipline€in€some€instances€provokes€children€to€anger.€The€problem€is€parents€who€over€react.Š $ t ŠGod's€Word€is€the€Christian's€standard.€It€is€always€well€balanced.€Parents€must€act€Biblically,€notŠ  ` Šreact.€The€Holy€Spirit€must€control€a€parent.€Many€parents€rightly€conclude€they€must€do€a€better€jobŠ ü L  Šof€discipline€and€many€times€over€react€and€do€so€in€anger.Š č 8  ŠĢI€know€that€many€people€will€disagree€with€me€on€this€next€point,€but€I€understand€that.€Many€peopleŠ Ą  Šhave€said€children€must€never€see€their€parents€disagree.€I€do€not€think€that€is€true.€The€children€needŠ ¬ü  Što€see€how€parents€settle€their€disagreements€as€a€Christian.€Otherwise,€the€parents€have€failed€toŠ ˜č  Šteach€their€children€how€to€handle€the€problems€of€marriage€in€God's€way.€Of€course,€the€parentsŠ „Ō  Šmust€be€committed€to€solving€problems€in€their€lives€God's€way.Š pĄ ŠĢAccompanying€over€discipline€is€often€unfairness€in€punishment.€Over€discipliners€use€aŠ H˜ Šsledgehammer€to€drive€home€a€tack.€Children€are€exasperated€under€that€kind€of€treatment€as€well.Š 4„ ŠThe€over€discipliner€has€never€learned€how€to€distinguish€between€things€that€differ.€If€a€child€backŠ  p Štalks€he€needs€discipline,€but€be€careful€that€you€do€not€discourage€all€talk.€A€child€needs€toŠ  \ Šcommunicate€with€their€parents.€Another€area€in€which€over€discipliners€must€come€to€face€involvesŠ ųH Šthe€importance€of€learning€how€to€distinguish€between€what€must€be€enforced€as€a€rule€and€what€aŠ ä4 Šchild€must€be€allowed€to€learn€on€his€own.Š Š  ŠĢWhen€we€taught€our€daughter€how€to€swing,€I€put€her€in€the€swing€and€helped€her€get€started€andŠ Øų Šthen€went€off€and€let€her€practice€and€learn€on€her€own.€I€watched€from€a€distance,€I€did€not€standŠ ”ä Šright€over€her.€This€was€something€she€needs€to€learn€to€take€her€lumps€on.€On€the€other€hand,€weŠ €Š Šhad€a€kerosene€heater€in€our€home€when€the€children€were€young.€The€heater€was€absolutelyŠ l¼ Šsomething€we€were€not€going€to€let€a€child€take€their€lumps€on.€Parents€must€learn€to€distinguishŠ X Ø Šbetween€swing€issues€and€flame€issues.Š D!” ŠĢAnother€example€of€over€discipline€is€saying€"no"€to€everything.€If€someone€always€said€"no"€to€youŠ #l! Šhow€would€you€feel€if€you€never€received€a€word€of€encouragement?Š $X" ŠĢEphesians€6:2€Notice,€"Honor€thy€father€and€mother"€is€positive.€And€if€they€do€they€will€receive€aŠ ą%0!$ Šreward€"thou€mayest€live€long€on€the€earth."€Ephesians€6:4€notice€the€word€"nurture",€it€meansŠ Ģ&"% Štraining€with€structure.€Parents€must€learn€to€discipline€but€they€must€learn€to€discipline€correctly.Š ø'#& ŠIf€you€tell€the€child€you€are€going€to€spank€them,€and€they€do€the€infraction€again,€spank€them!€If€youŠ ¤(ō#' Štell€the€child€to€do€something€and€they€will€not€do€it,€do€not€let€that€go.Š )ą$( ŠĢListen€very€carefully,€the€child's€will€needs€to€be€broken,€but€not€his€spirit.€He€needs€to€know€thatŠ h+ø&* Šyou€love€him,€but€He€will€be€disciplined€for€doing€wrong.€If€you€do€not€do€so,€he€will€test€you€to€seeŠ ° Šhow€far€you€will€let€him€go.Š œģ ŠĢParents,€there€is€a€certain€conduct€in€a€child€that€should€never€be€tolerated.€A€child€who€isŠ tÄ Šdisobedient€to€what€they€have€been€told€to€do€and€non-Christian€attitude€and€conduct€should€neverŠ `° Šgo€unpunished.€A€child€must€learn€how€to€treat€other€children€with€respect€and€especially€adults€inŠ L œ Šauthority€with€respect.€A€parent€must€teach€these€matters€to€their€children.€Ninety€percent€of€whatŠ 8 ˆ Šyou€will€teach€your€children€you€will€do€so€between€the€ages€of€zero€and€twelve.€Parents,€a€childŠ $ t Šmust€learn€that€what€God€thinks€about€it€is€the€most€important€thing.€Discipline€must€be€consistentŠ  ` Šas€it€appears€in€the€Word€of€God.€I€have€three€very€important€rules€of€thumb€for€you€on€discipline:Š ü L  ŠĢӁ€ a`(°803gÓŻ"‚±\"ŻŻ  ŻŻ‚±\5ŻŌ2°8ŌŚ  Ś1Ś  Ś.Ō3  ŌŻ  Ż€Discipline€Early€in€the€Child's€Life,€Psalm€51:5,€Psalm€58:3€Żƒ±\5¼5ŻŒŠ Ō$  ŠŒŻ  ŻŻ"‚±\"ŻŻ  ŻŻ‚±\€6ŻŌ2°8ŌŚ  Ś2Ś  Ś.Ō3  ŌŻ  Ż€Discipline€ConsistentlyŻƒ±\€6­6ŻŒŠ Ą  ŠŒŻ  ŻŻ"‚`µ\"ŻŻ  Żą0  ąŻ‚`µ\K7ŻŌ2°8ŌŚ  ŚaŚ  Ś.Ō3  ŌŻ  Ż€You€must€remember€parental€authority€is€God's€authority.Żƒ`µ\K7„7ŻŒŠ¬ü (#(# ŠŒŻ  ŻŻ"‚`µ\"ŻŻ  Żą0  ąŻ‚`µ\M8ŻŌ2°8ŌŚ  ŚbŚ  Ś.Ō3  ŌŻ  Ż€Romans€13:1-2,€Ephesians€6:1,€Hebrews€12:5-11,€Proverbs€3:12,€Proverbs€13:24,€ProverbsŠ ˜č  Š22:15,€Proverbs€23:13-14Żƒ`µ\M8†8ŻŒŠ„Ō (#(# ŠŒŻ  ŻŲ! !ŲŻ"‚±\"ŻŻ  ŻŻ‚±\»9ŻŌ2°8ŌŚ  Ś3Ś  Ś.Ō3  ŌŻ  Ż€Discipline€Improper€Reaction€and€Attitude€in€the€Child's€LifeŌ#†WfĻXXvWhuŗ #Ō