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Šdiscipline€of€the€child.€I€firmly€believe€that€both€parts€are€important,€but€I€believe€the€first€part€isŠ ®%ž " Šextremely€important.€The€first€part€was€our€spiritual€relationship€and€conveying€our€spiritualŠ š&ź!# Šrelationship€with€God€to€our€children.€Part€of€the€training€is€the€correct,€godly,€and€Biblical€disciplineŠ †'Ö"$ Šof€our€children.Š r(Ā#% ŠĢThe€book€of€Proverbs€mentions€proper€discipline€five€times.€It€is€interesting€to€me€that€the€book€ofŠ J*š%' ŠProverbs€mentions€communicating€our€spiritual€relationship€to€the€child€twenty-five€times.€ManyŠ 6+†&( ŠChristians€have€different€ideas€about€the€discipline€of€our€children.€We€live€in€a€very€undisciplinedŠ ",r') Šsociety.€The€lack€of€discipline€and€spiritual€communication€is€sending€our€society€into€majorŠ ° Šproblems.Š œģ ŠĢOne€of€the€areas€that€this€lack€of€discipline€shows€up€in€today€in€our€society€is€in€the€peer€influenceŠ tÄ Šof€our€children€and€allowing€our€children€to€make€their€own€choices.€What€is€happening€today€is€theŠ `° Šculture€we€are€living€in€is€rearing€our€children€instead€of€the€parents.€The€culture€and€peer€influenceŠ L œ Šrears€our€children€because€in€many€instances€the€parents€are€not€there€to€rear€the€children.€Listen€toŠ 8 ˆ Šme€very€carefully,€if€you€desire€to€rear€spiritual€children,€you€have€to€make€a€decision€in€your€lifeŠ $ t Što€be€the€main€influence€in€your€children's€lives.€Three€of€the€most€corrupting€influences€upon€ourŠ  ` Šchildren€today€are€television,€music,€and€friends.€Do€not€be€deceived€folks;€the€devil€wants€ourŠ ü L  Šculture€to€rear€our€children.€Do€not€underestimate€the€power€of€these€influences.€Many€children€willŠ č 8  Šlisten€to€their€peers€before€they€will€listen€to€you,€if€you€allow€it€to€be€that€way.€Again,€you€mustŠ Ō$  Šmake€a€decision€to€be€the€most€important€influence€in€the€children's€lives.€Š Ą  ŠĢThe€Lord€has€blessed€us€with€two€wonderful€daughters,€Teresa€and€Jennifer,€who€have€been€trainedŠ ˜č  Šby€their€parents€to€have€a€heart€to€serve€God.€They€have€been€taught€by€their€parents€not€to€allow€theŠ „Ō  Šinfluence€of€their€peers€to€lead€them€into€sin.€Both€daughters€are€preparing€to€serve€the€Lord€on€theŠ pĄ Šmission€field.€At€the€time€of€this€writing€one€has€graduated€from€Bible€College€and€married€a€godlyŠ \¬ Šyoung€man.€The€other€is€in€her€second€year€of€Bible€College€and€will€spend€her€summer€on€a€foreignŠ H˜ Šfield€because€of€her€desire€to€see€others€come€to€know€Christ€as€Savior.€They€are€not€interested€inŠ 4„ Šwhat€the€world€has€to€offer.€Why?€Because€they€were€taught€and€trained€from€the€time€they€wereŠ  p Šsmall€children€that€what€God€wants€is€more€important€than€friends€and€peer€influences.€Š  \ ŠĢMy€wife€and€I€made€a€decision€as€young€parents€that€my€wife€would€stay€home€and€become€the€mostŠ ä4 Šimportant€influence€in€their€lives€Titus€2:3-5.€Their€mother€home€schooled€both€of€our€daughters.Š Š  ŠThey€were€not€academic€misfits.€In€fact,€one€of€the€girls€scored€in€the€top€three€percent€in€the€countryŠ ¼  Šon€the€English€portion€of€the€ACT€test.€We€heard€all€the€talk€about€lack€of€socialization.€Folks,€thoseŠ Øų Šof€you€who€know€our€daughters€know€they€are€not€social€morons.€We€made€sure€their€socializationŠ ”ä Šwas€godly.€We€made€sure€to€guard€their€training€and€influences.€Why€did€we€do€that?€We€know€thatŠ €Š Šthe€Bible€tells€us€that€Satan€wants€to€destroy€their€lives.€I€Peter€5:8-9€"Be€sober€be€vigilant€becauseŠ l¼ Šyour€adversary€the€devil,€as€a€roaring€lion,€walketh€about€seeking€whom€he€may€devour:€Whom€resistŠ X Ø Šsteadfast€in€the€faith,€knowing€that€the€same€afflictions€are€accomplished€in€your€brethren€that€areŠ D!” Šin€the€world."€As€a€Christian€parent,€you€better€understand€these€verses.€I€can€hear€someone€say,€"IŠ 0"€  Šbet€their€home€was€like€a€prison,€they€never€had€any€fun."€In€fact,€quite€the€contrary€is€true.€OurŠ #l! Šchildren€had€a€great€time€growing€up.€They€learned€to€have€the€right€kind€of€fun€from€their€parents.Š $X" ŠTheir€mother€taught€them€to€enjoy€proper€music,€not€music€that€appeals€to€the€flesh.€She€taught€themŠ ō$D # Što€be€godly€young€ladies€as€the€Bible€instructs€in€Titus€2.€She€taught€them€to€dress,€as€a€godly€youngŠ ą%0!$ Šlady€should.€She€taught€them€to€cook,€and€we€both€taught€them€to€be€hard€workers.€They€were€taughtŠ Ģ&"% Što€do€their€best€for€God€in€whatever€they€did€I€Corinthians€10:31.€My€wife€Kim,€was€a€huge€godlyŠ ø'#& Šinfluence€in€their€life€because€she€committed€herself€to€be€there€and€to€be€the€most€importantŠ ¤(ō#' Šinfluence€in€their€lives.€Kim€worked€very€hard€and€prayed€much€for€their€lives.€Parents€today€startŠ )ą$( Šout€by€allowing€their€children€to€make€their€own€decisions.€I€have€observed€parents€interacting€withŠ |*Ģ%) Štheir€children€like€this:€The€parent€lays€out€the€small€child's€clothes€and€the€child€says,€"I€do€not€wantŠ h+ø&* Što€wear€that!"€The€parent€says,€"Honey,€I€am€sorry€I€did€not€know€you€did€not€want€to€wear€that.€YouŠ ° Šdo€not€have€to€wear€that."€The€child€and€parent€continue€this€dialogue€through€out€the€child's€life€inŠ œģ Šalmost€every€instance.€Most€parents€do€this€today.€What€happens,€the€child€grows€up€making€theirŠ ˆŲ Šown€choices,€and€when€he€gets€to€be€eighteen€he€will€not€listen€to€a€word€you€say€because€you€haveŠ tÄ Štaught€him€from€the€time€he€was€a€little€child€not€to€listen€to€you.€You€have€now€opened€his€life€upŠ `° Što€be€reared€by€his€culture.€His€friends€will€be€the€most€important€influence€in€his€life€fueled€byŠ L œ Štelevision€and€music€of€the€culture.€He€will€become€a€spiritually€undisciplined€person€in€life€who€isŠ 8 ˆ Šlead€by€his€emotions€rather€than€by€the€Word€of€God.€Unfortunately,€most€Christians€fall€into€thisŠ $ t Šcategory€today€and€do€not€have€a€clue€why€their€children€have€turned€out€the€way€they€have.€YOUŠ  ` ŠMUST€DETERMINE€TO€BE€THE€MOST€IMPORTANT€INFLUENCE€IN€THEIR€LIVES.Š ü L  ŠHowever,€you€have€to€be€a€spiritual€person€to€see€the€truth€in€what€I€am€talking€about€here.€I€canŠ č 8  Šagain€hear€someone€say,€"I€bet€his€girls€do€not€have€any€friends."€On€the€contrary€they€both€becameŠ Ō$  Šspiritual€leaders€in€Bible€College€and€have€like-minded€friends€who€desire€to€live€for€God.€You€seeŠ Ą  Šfolks;€we€trained€them€to€have€a€spiritual€disciplined€life€as€a€child€and€protected€their€influences€forŠ ¬ü  ŠGod€as€small€children€and€teens€so€that€as€they€matured€they€would€be€able€to€make€godly€choices.Š ˜č  ŠWhy,€because€they€saw€their€parents€make€godly,€disciplined€choices.€A€fifteen-year€old€is€notŠ „Ō  Šmature€enough€to€make€choices€on€a€life's€mate€and€they€do€not€need€to€be€put€in€situations€whereŠ pĄ Šthey€might€be€tempted€to€do€so.€Parents€do€not€be€stupid.€We€very€seldom€ever€allowed€our€childrenŠ \¬ Što€spend€a€night€away€from€home€unless€we€really€knew€the€spiritual€life€of€the€family€they€wereŠ H˜ Šwith.€We€certainly€would€not€allow€them€to€spend€the€night€with€the€unsaved€or€carnal€Christians,Š 4„ Šwhich€included€extended€members€of€our€family.€We€also€told€our€daughters€as€they€were€growingŠ  p Šup€that€there€was€no€reason€for€them€to€consider€dating.€They€had€plenty€of€time€when€they€went€toŠ  \ Šcollege€to€start€considering€young€men.€They€were€also€instructed€as€to€what€they€needed€to€beŠ ųH Šlooking€for€in€young€men€who€could€possibly€be€their€life's€mate.€Teenagers€are€not€mature€enoughŠ ä4 Što€make€decisions€that€are€as€serious€as€their€life€mate€is.€They€also€should€not€be€put€in€relationshipsŠ Š  Šand€situations€that€would€encourage€them€to€be€involved€in€the€lusts€of€the€flesh€at€an€age€where€theyŠ ¼  Šneed€to€concentrate€on€their€relationship€with€God€not€the€opposite€sex.€Most€parents€make€seriousŠ Øų Šerrors€here€and€believe€their€children€will€lack€in€social€skills€if€they€are€not€allowed€to€date.€In€fact,Š ”ä Šwhat€happens€is€the€parents€are€allowing€the€culture€to€rear€their€children€and€heart€break€can€comeŠ €Š Šout€of€social€peer€pressure€Galatians€6:7.Š l¼ ŠĢWe€were€not€going€to€be€bullied€or€begged€to€make€stupid€spiritual€decisions€in€light€of€I€Peter€5:8-9.Š D!” ŠAgain,€we€are€to€live€a€disciplined€life€not€a€weak€emotional€feeling€lead€life.€Our€decisions€are€toŠ 0"€  Šbe€made€based€on€the€Word€of€God€not€on€a€whim€of€feelings.€We€communicated€to€our€childrenŠ #l! Šas€they€were€growing€up€that€Jesus€wants€to€reproduce€His€character€in€their€life€and€the€devil€wantsŠ $X" Što€reproduce€his€character€in€their€life.€To€a€Christian€who€has€a€relationship€with€the€Lord,€livingŠ ō$D # Šfor€Christ€and€walking€with€Him€is€more€important€than€whether€or€not€he€is€a€good€ballplayer.Š ą%0!$ ŠFolks,€I€know€the€influence€that€peers€have€on€your€life€in€sports,€as€I€was€a€former€professionalŠ Ģ&"% Šbaseball€pitcher.€The€Christian€life€is€a€disciplined€spiritual€life.€If€you€do€not€understand€thisŠ ø'#& Šprinciple,€you€will€fail€in€the€task€of€rearing€your€children€to€love€and€serve€the€Lord.€The€cultureŠ ¤(ō#' Šwill€rear€your€child€if€you€allow€it€to€do€so€and€bring€heartbreak€to€you€and€your€home.€So,€why€doŠ )ą$( ŠI€have€to€take€this€position€on€a€disciplined€Christian€life?€Psalm€51:5€"Behold,€I€was€shapen€inŠ |*Ģ%) Šiniquity;€and€in€sin€did€my€mother€conceive€me."€Psalm€58:3€"The€wicked€are€estranged€from€theŠ h+ø&* Šwomb:€they€go€astray€as€soon€as€they€be€born,€speaking€lies."€A€child€is€a€sinner€at€birth.€You€neverŠ ° Šhave€to€teach€a€child€to€do€wrong.€They€will€do€so€automatically.€You€have€to€teach€them€to€do€right.Š œģ ŠThe€will€of€the€child€must€be€dealt€with€while€it€is€weak.€The€child€must€understand€that€he€or€sheŠ ˆŲ Šcannot€live€by€their€lusts€alone.Š tÄ ŠParents,€discipline€is€a€strong€form€of€love€that€gives€the€child€security.€The€child€has€to€learnŠ `° Šself-control.€Proverbs€13:24€"He€that€spareth€his€rod€hateth€his€son:€but€he€that€loveth€him€chastenthŠ L œ Šhim€betimes."€The€word€here€"betimes"€means€"early"€in€his€life.€Proper€discipline€of€the€child€mustŠ 8 ˆ Šstart€early.€Babies€have€a€will€and€they€start€to€exercise€it€early.€From€the€time€they€are€babies€weŠ $ t Šmust€let€the€children€know€they€cannot€have€their€own€way.€The€Bible€tells€us€to€discipline€early.Š  ` ŠProverbs€19:18€"Chasten€thy€son€while€there€is€hope€and€let€not€thy€soul€spare€for€his€crying."€DidŠ ü L  Šyou€notice€the€phrase€"while€there€is€still€hope?"€There€will€come€a€time€for€the€spiritually€ignorantŠ č 8  Šor€disobedient€parent€that€there€is€no€hope.Š Ō$  ŠĢProverbs€22:15€"Foolishness€is€bound€in€the€heart€of€a€child:€but€the€rod€of€correction€shall€drive€itŠ ¬ü  Šfrom€him."€In€these€two€verses€there€is€a€prominent€word,€"rod."€My€understanding€is€the€HebrewŠ ˜č  Šword€for€rod€is€a€branch€or€a€stick€or€a€staff.€It€is€like€the€rod€of€a€shepherd.€The€rod€was€a€symbolŠ „Ō  Šof€authority€in€the€hands€of€a€ruler.€Basically€folks,€this€deals€with€spanking€and€using€an€object€toŠ pĄ Šspank.€On€this€Biblical€basis,€I€never€used€my€hand€to€discipline€our€children.€I€used€a€paddle€as€aŠ \¬ Šsymbol€of€authority.€Parents€we€are€to€discipline€early€and€the€Bible€tells€us€to€discipline€consistentlyŠ H˜ Šand€correctly.€Obviously,€we€do€not€spank€for€every€infraction.€Sometimes€there€is€verbal€correction.Š 4„ ŠLet€me€give€you€a€very€important€rule:€A€child€should€never€be€told€more€than€once.€If€you€are€notŠ  p Šcareful€here€the€child€will€develop€a€pattern€with€you.€How€far€can€we€go€before€the€parent€will€getŠ  \ Šthis€done?Š ųH ŠĢA€child€must€understand€that€parental€authority€is€God's€authority.€Someone€says,€"Pastor€are€youŠ Š  Šsaying€I€should€spank€my€child?"€They€will€think€I€do€not€love€them."Š ¼  ŠProverbs€3:12€"for€whom€the€Lord€loveth€he€correcteth:€even€as€a€father€the€son€in€whom€heŠ Øų Šdelighteth."€The€proper€correction€shows€you€love€your€child.€Š ”ä ŠĢLet€me€give€you€another€pattern€to€look€for.€As€soon€as€you€say,€"I€am€going€to€spank€you,"€the€childŠ l¼ Šsays,€"I€am€sorry."€The€child€is€not€sorry€he€is€a€con€artist!€You€need€to€make€sure€he€knows€andŠ X Ø Šunderstands€what€is€expected€of€them.€Another€important€rule€is€never€discipline€a€child€for€failureŠ D!” Što€understand.€Again,€here€some€children€can€be€a€con€artist€in€this€area.Š 0"€  ŠĢSomething€that€is€very€important€is€that€we€should€discipline€for€attitude.€When€a€child€says€"no"€toŠ $X" Šyou€or€makes€a€face€etc.€proper€discipline€is€in€order.€In€this€battle€of€the€wills€you€may€have€to€spankŠ ō$D # Šmore€than€once.€Remember€I€said€spank€not€hit,€slap,€yell,€cuss,€pull€their€hair,€get€them€on€the€floorŠ ą%0!$ Šand€beat€them,€chase€them€around€the€house€with€a€belt,€or€scream€at€them.€God€has€given€us€theŠ Ģ&"% Šperfect€place€to€spank.€It€has€no€bones€that€will€break€and€has€been€provided€by€the€Lord€for€the€"rodŠ ø'#& Šof€correction."€Parents€who€yell€and€scream€all€the€time€are€only€building€a€rebel.€The€child€will€hearŠ ¤(ō#' Šyou€yell€and€scream€and€ignore€you€and€when€he€grows€up€he€will€never€listen€to€a€thing€you€tellŠ )ą$( Šhim.€I€have€talked€to€many€parents€who€have€disciplined€in€this€manner€and€they€firmly€believe€theyŠ |*Ģ%) Šare€a€disciplinarian.€"You€know€Pastor€my€kids€got€it€when€they€back€talked€me,€I€hit€them€right€inŠ h+ø&* Šthe€mouth.€I€yelled€and€they€listened."€Sure€they€did,€right€up€until€the€day€they€got€out€of€your€house.Š ° ŠNow€they€live€the€way€they€want€which€does€not€include€living€for€God.€You€did€not€train€them,€youŠ œģ Šbrowbeat€them!€They€longed€to€get€away€from€you.Š ˆŲ ŠĢListen€carefully,€proper€discipline€of€the€child€requires€not€disciplining€in€anger.€When€our€childrenŠ `° Šdisobeyed,€we€calmly€went€into€the€bedroom€and€talked€with€them€about€their€disobedience€andŠ L œ Šspanked€them€on€the€area€God€has€provided.€We€always€told€our€children€that€we€were€displeasedŠ 8 ˆ Šwith€their€behavior€and€God€was€displeased.€We€then€told€them€we€loved€them€and€wanted€them€toŠ $ t Šgrow€up€to€have€good€character€and€to€be€obedient€to€the€Lord.€We€also€told€them€that€Jesus€lovedŠ  ` Šthem€and€wanted€them€to€have€good€character.€We€always€hugged€them€and€made€sure€they€knewŠ ü L  Šwe€loved€them€and€the€discipline€was€for€their€own€good.€Quite€frankly,€we€really€never€had€to€spankŠ č 8  Šeither€child€after€the€fourth€grade.€We€broke€their€will€early.€I€will€talk€about€this€matter€of€breakingŠ Ō$  Šthe€will€further€in€the€next€message.Š Ą  ŠĢI€have€talked€to€many€criminals€in€jail.€I€always€ask€them€a€question,€did€your€parents€spank€youŠ ˜č  Šwhen€you€were€growing€up?"€The€answer€is€surprising€in€many€instances,€but€it€is€something€for€usŠ „Ō  Što€think€about.€Almost€always,€they€will€answer,€"€dad€or€mom€(they€usually€do€not€call€them€that)Š pĄ Šbeat€me€when€I€needed€it,"€or€some€answer€similar.€They€always€seem€to€have€a€smile€on€their€faceŠ \¬ Šwhen€they€talk€about€it.€Then€I€ask,€"How€did€they€spank€you?"€I€get€something€like€"he€chased€meŠ H˜ Šwith€the€belt€or€he€got€me€down€and€whomped€me"€etc.€They€never€talk€about€a€Biblical,€godly€formŠ 4„ Šof€discipline.€Most€people€do€not€understand€what€proper€discipline€is.Š  p ŠĢParents€I€can€hear€someone€say,€"I€will€never€spank€my€child!"€Then€you€may€be€affecting€that€child'sŠ ųH Šsalvation.€Proverbs€23:13-14€"Withold€not€correction€from€the€child:€for€if€thou€beatest€him€with€theŠ ä4 Šrod,€he€shall€not€die.€Thou€shalt€beat€him€with€the€rod,€and€deliver€his€soul€from€hell."€Parents,€thisŠ Š  Šis€a€will€matter.€Remember,€I€said€parental€authority€is€God's€authority.€If€a€child€will€not€submit€toŠ ¼  Šhis€parents,€he€will€never€submit€to€God.€When€we€did€spank€our€children,€we€did€not€allow€themŠ Øų Što€scream,€yell,€or€excessively€cry.€If€they€did,€we€spanked€them€until€their€wills€were€submissive.Š ”ä ŠThis€may€take€several€times.€Many€people€in€our€culture€now€say€spanking€is€child€abuse.€I€agreeŠ €Š Šthere€are€people€out€there€who€do€abuse€their€children.€The€lie€of€the€devil€and€the€greatest€form€ofŠ l¼ Šchild€abuse€that€has€ever€been€put€upon€a€society€is€putting€children€on€drugs€for€their€behavior.Š X Ø ŠMany€public€school€children€are€now€on€drugs€for€what€has€been€called€Attention€Deficit€Disorder.Š D!” ŠI€would€agree€that€there€is€a€great€Attention€Deficit€Disorder€in€our€society€and€it€is€on€the€part€of€theŠ 0"€  Šparents,€not€the€children.€Many€of€the€children€in€our€society€are€being€put€on€drugs€because€theŠ #l! Šparents€are€not€home€and€when€they€are€home,€they€are€too€tired€to€give€the€child€any€attention.€TheŠ $X" Šchild€is€banished€to€the€back€of€the€house,€put€in€front€of€a€television,€or€a€video€game.€WhenŠ ō$D # Šdiscipline€is€brought€forth€it€is€in€the€form€of€yelling,€screaming,€hitting€etc.€The€parent€does€not€haveŠ ą%0!$ Šthe€time€or€the€energy€to€do€any€real€parenting€as€God€has€commanded.€Therefore,€we€put€drugs€inŠ Ģ&"% Šour€children€because€we€do€not€have€time€to€deal€with€them.€This€is€one€of€the€great€sins€of€ourŠ ø'#& Šsociety€and€many€Christians€have€bought€into€it.€The€sadness€is€we€have€multitudes€of€children€whoŠ ¤(ō#' Šwill€grow€up€never€learning€to€obey€as€God€has€intended€them€to€and€they€will€always€have€anŠ )ą$( Šexcuse€for€their€poor€behavior.€The€culture€has€given€them€a€reason€to€be€a€rebel€and€to€beŠ |*Ģ%) Šdisobedient.€Their€parents€are€off€the€hook€because€they€have€a€child€with€a€problem.€Do€I€believeŠ h+ø&* Šthere€are€children€with€real€mental€problems€out€there?€Yes€there€are€but€the€percentage€is€very€few.Š ° ŠWhat€we€are€experiencing€now€is€a€society€that€is€extremely€undisciplined€and€is€dependent€uponŠ œģ Šdrugs€for€behavior€rather€than€the€Word€of€God.Š ˆŲ ŠĢParent's€let€me€finish€this€message€with€this€important€thought.€I€believe€proper€discipline€of€theŠ `° Šchild€is€important.€I€really€do€not€believe€it€is€as€important€as€the€first€section€we€looked€at.€YourŠ L œ Šrelationship€to€God€and€developing€Junior's€relationship€to€God€is€your€most€important€task€inŠ 8 ˆ Šrearing€spiritual€children.€Listen€carefully,€if€you€have€a€spiritual€relationship€with€God€you€willŠ $ t Šunderstand€the€importance€of€proper€discipline€and€will€seek€God's€will€in€the€matter.€Folks,€I€canŠ  ` Štell€a€lot€about€a€person's€relationship€with€God€by€the€godly€discipline€in€their€life€or€the€lack€ofŠ ü L  Šspiritual€discipline€in€their€life.€I€can€tell€a€lot€about€the€spirituality€of€a€church€by€looking€at€theŠ č 8  ŠPastor's€children€and€family.€As€a€Pastor€it€is€my€responsibility€before€God€to€have€a€godly€family,Š Ō$  Šor€I€can€not€teach€anyone€else€what€God's€word€says€on€the€matter.€It€is€my€responsibility€to€developŠ Ą  Šin€my€wife€and€children€a€passion€for€the€Lord.€My€testimony€before€God€is€important€in€this€matter.Š ¬ü  ŠThis€is€an€area€where€we€can€not€fool€anyone.€The€Bible€makes€it€plain€it€will€come€back€to€get€usŠ ˜č  Šif€we€are€not€obedient€to€God€in€this€matter.€Something€I€have€learned€is€this€takes€hard€work.€WeŠ „Ō  Šcannot€be€lazy€and€slothful€in€this€matter€of€spiritual€training,€which€I€believe€is€the€most€importantŠ pĄ Šmatter;€we€have€outside€of€our€salvation€and€our€children's€salvation.Ō#†`WŠMXXtWń¤] #Ō